We’ve always had our moments. Moments wherein we suddenly don’t know how to interact with a certain person we’ve known over the years. If you aren’t a people person, it’s completely fine that you find yourself uncomfortable or unable to hold a conversation. It’s something that should be applauded though because you’re doing something out of your comfort zone. It can be especially hard if you try to talk with a loved one you haven’t talked to in years. The effort to reconnect with someone from your family tree isn’t a waste of time, contrary to what other people might be saying. Here are tips that can help you talk to a loved one.
Understand why there’s a gap
Whether it’s because either of you didn’t try to keep in touch or there was a fight that happened years ago, analyze the situation and know what positions you have in each other’s lives. A lot of people regret not talking to the people they love because they fought over something that didn’t matter in the long run. Address the issue to your loved one and talk it out.
If there’s apologizing that needs to be done, apologize. Same thing goes with your loved one. We all make mistakes and said mistakes are lessons that can help us become better versions of ourselves. Holding on to a grudge for so long can do more damage to you than to the person you’re holding a grudge on.
Bring along another relative for support
If you’ve decided to forgive and forget and would like to visit your loved one, you might find yourself hesitating at first. Talking to them might feel foreign. But if you’d like, you can ask another relative to accompany you for support. You might not hit it off right away, but reconnecting with people takes a lot of baby steps.
Just act naturally
Whenever we’re nervous about something, we tend to feel self-conscious and start to act unusually. Unusual in the sense that we probably won’t be acting that way if it weren’t for the situation at hand. You might be wanting to make a good impression for the sake of your loved one, but don’t do this by acting differently. Just be yourself, cliché as it may sound.
Don’t force anything
Even though you’ve been talking for a while now, you sense that the nature of you and your loved one’s relationship still isn’t the same as before, and you fear that it will never be the same. Just give it a few more weeks but if it still hasn’t changed, then try as much as possible to not let it be a hindrance to what you both have now. Cultivate the bond but don’t force anything.
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